Comments on: P365 - Day 60 (A Letter to Sarah)

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 05 Mar 2007 21:28:42 +0000

GRACE . . . it’s one of my favorite words. I also love Tim’s comments. How cool God is!!!! He knew exactly what she needed and I think “parent apologies” are so needed. I love for the kids to see that we are not perfect and that hopefully they will be able to see grace and forgiveness through our mistakes not just theirs Awesome post!

By: Dorothy

Dorothy — Sat, 03 Mar 2007 08:19:50 +0000

Lovely post.

Dorothy

By: KME

KME — Sat, 03 Mar 2007 06:44:15 +0000

Carl - sorry to spring an emotional blog on you! Not my intention. I had a sweet picture of Sarah to post and was just overwhelmed with my inadequacies as a mother. Since one of the reasons Tim and I started this blog was to create something for our children - a piece of our hearts and thoughts - I thought I would post a letter of apology. In a strange twist of events, Sarah and Rachel are spending the night at a friend’s house this weekend so I don’t have the opportunity to read her the letter or spend some snuggle time with her.

By: KME

KME — Sat, 03 Mar 2007 06:23:47 +0000

Wow! Tim, I didn’t even think about the fact that you and Sarah had that special time. What an amazing God we serve. I was so focused on the details for the meeting (changing agendas and team lists) that I was only peripherially aware of your fun interactions.

As De’Etta says — tandem parenting! So nice to be part of a team.

We are praying hard for friends with husbands deployed and dealing with families on their own. Difficult!

By: De'Etta

De'Etta — Sat, 03 Mar 2007 04:28:14 +0000

Awesome to see grace in action….tandem parenting - the best way to go.

By: Debbie in NNY

Debbie in NNY — Fri, 02 Mar 2007 21:11:47 +0000

Kathy, what a wonderful letter to your dear daughter. I think it is terrific that you can apologize to her. I’m sure she didn’t notice your slights nearly as much as you. I’ve noticed that we parents always seem to feel far worse about these things than the children take them. Your children are blessed to have such a caring and loving momma.

By: Carl

Carl — Fri, 02 Mar 2007 19:41:23 +0000

You need to warn us before posting something like this. I was at work, scanning my new blog posts. As I read through this one, I started to cry. I had to stop reading. Then I read the reply from Tim and just about lost it completely.

You may not realize, though I hope you do, what a lasting impact this has on a child. It is crucial that parents are willing to admit they are not perfect and do make mistakes. A Parent who acknowledges this, and offers humble apologies to the children when needed, will go a long way toward inculcating humility into the child’s heart. Parents unwilling to swallow their pride end up with proud children.

Tim, special moments like you described will also be remembered many years later as the best times in a child’s life. They will be regarded as reassuring evidence of the parents’ love.

By: Laura in CT

Laura in CT — Fri, 02 Mar 2007 18:01:32 +0000

Oh, my, Kathy and Tim–God is so good, isn’t he? Kathy’s post and Tim’s comment both have me all choked up. Think I’ll go give someone a snuggle! Thanks for sharing your heart with Sarah and letting us listen in.

By: Tim

Tim — Fri, 02 Mar 2007 17:10:42 +0000

How very interesting to read about your feelings of having neglected some of the sweet moments with Sarah — I had no idea it had been that kind of day. God’s economy of grace is truly remarkable. After I came home from work, I was waiting to make a phone call after 5 pm, and the boys were hogging the computers, so I was ‘idle’. I’m not really into the book I am reading these days, and so I sat around the living room and had a very special time with Sarah, bouncing her on my lap in simulated ‘earthquakes’, pretending I was asleep (she tries to tickle my feet to wake me up) and later playing hide & seek with her around the house. We had a great 45 minutes, and I think she went away well-satisfied.

I’m not trying to one-up you, my Kathy; I’m just in awe at God who knew that Sarah needed to be loved-up and provided the fulfillment of that need through me, this time. I think this is just one more example of why parents come in pairs, so that one can pinch-hit for the other in communicating God’s love.

By: Aunt Kate

Aunt Kate — Fri, 02 Mar 2007 13:45:08 +0000

Hi, sweet Katherine. There is nothing more precious than a parent appologizing to a child. Good for you. Humbling and dear. I recall Nana saying she was sorry–and I think it’s of huge significance to a child!

I love you and am proud of you. Aunt Kate