Comments on: A Father’s Rebuke http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/ The musings and ravings of a bloggart family Mon, 1 Dec 2008 22:49:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 By: Emily http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2779 Emily Sat, 18 Aug 2007 03:34:37 +0000 http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2779 Ok - I am now totally convinced you and Tim should write a book! You all are amazing . . and the way you communicate is so easy and understandable! Ok - I am now totally convinced you and Tim should write a book! You all are amazing . . and the way you communicate is so easy and understandable!

]]> By: Carl Gray http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2773 Carl Gray Sat, 18 Aug 2007 01:54:35 +0000 http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2773 Kathy, this was probably your best entry yet. I cried through the whole thing and found it very convicting to me, not regarding my relationship to children or parents, but in my relationship to the Lord. After surviving the rebuke of another Christian family, I have found myself becoming hardened, just to protect myself somehow. But this has taken a toll on the tenderness of my heart toward the Lord and I find myself even less convicted and contrite regarding my sin. I think there are some, like me, who have personalities that don't respond well to harsh criticism and stern rebuke. Rather than make us suddenly realize our need to change, it hardens us and makes us retreat further into our protective shell. Only a loving, gentle restoration can bring us back out and soften our hearts again, giving us an incentive to want to change. Kathy, this was probably your best entry yet. I cried through the whole thing and found it very convicting to me, not regarding my relationship to children or parents, but in my relationship to the Lord. After surviving the rebuke of another Christian family, I have found myself becoming hardened, just to protect myself somehow. But this has taken a toll on the tenderness of my heart toward the Lord and I find myself even less convicted and contrite regarding my sin.

I think there are some, like me, who have personalities that don’t respond well to harsh criticism and stern rebuke. Rather than make us suddenly realize our need to change, it hardens us and makes us retreat further into our protective shell. Only a loving, gentle restoration can bring us back out and soften our hearts again, giving us an incentive to want to change.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2664 Lisa Tue, 14 Aug 2007 01:36:47 +0000 http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2664 Checks and balances. You guys are a great couple. When you can trust your spouse to give it to you straight and be able to feel secure in your relationship to accept it, you've got a wonderful relationship. What a blessing! Checks and balances. You guys are a great couple. When you can trust your spouse to give it to you straight and be able to feel secure in your relationship to accept it, you’ve got a wonderful relationship. What a blessing!

]]> By: KME http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2639 KME Mon, 13 Aug 2007 04:08:07 +0000 http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2639 Debbie - you are right, we need to keep our own hearts tender toward our children as well as striving to keep their hearts soft. Interesting. It helps to recognize it, don't you think, so at least you can plead with the Lord for help. Baby steps, my friend, baby steps. :) Debbie - you are right, we need to keep our own hearts tender toward our children as well as striving to keep their hearts soft. Interesting. It helps to recognize it, don’t you think, so at least you can plead with the Lord for help. Baby steps, my friend, baby steps. :)

]]> By: KME http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2638 KME Mon, 13 Aug 2007 03:58:17 +0000 http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2638 Jennifer - whenever I spend any time outside gardening (which, I must admit is RARE) I am drawn to the Biblical implications and illustrations. As much as I find it tiring, I like your friend's words that relationships require constant tending. It brings to mind the sweet things that are brought forth in gardening - beautiful flowers, delicious fruits and veggies, soft green grass. Let's encourage each other, shall we, to continue being faithful in parenting these rascals!! Jennifer - whenever I spend any time outside gardening (which, I must admit is RARE) I am drawn to the Biblical implications and illustrations. As much as I find it tiring, I like your friend’s words that relationships require constant tending. It brings to mind the sweet things that are brought forth in gardening - beautiful flowers, delicious fruits and veggies, soft green grass.

Let’s encourage each other, shall we, to continue being faithful in parenting these rascals!!

]]> By: Aunt Kate http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2635 Aunt Kate Mon, 13 Aug 2007 02:23:46 +0000 http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2635 I cried almost all the way thru this blog. Not quite sure why. I suspect it's the 'certainty of being loved' that got to me. As you know, sweet Niece, that's not always been so in my marriage- and so I'm tender in this regard. Or maybe I'm just worn out after the Portland kids' visit. I am definitely a sinner, too- and I hurt the feelings of those I love more than I want to. Thanks so much for your open sharing. I love YOU. aunt kate I cried almost all the way thru this blog. Not quite sure why. I suspect it’s the ‘certainty of being loved’ that got to me. As you know, sweet Niece, that’s not always been so in my marriage- and so I’m tender in this regard.

Or maybe I’m just worn out after the Portland kids’ visit. I am definitely a sinner, too- and I hurt the feelings of those I love more than I want to.

Thanks so much for your open sharing. I love YOU. aunt kate

]]> By: Cynthia http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2632 Cynthia Sun, 12 Aug 2007 23:53:27 +0000 http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2632 Debbie, I've gotten into a few bad habits myself this summer... letting things (the kids, the house, etc.) get a bit out of hand, etc. Kathy, I'm quite OCD when it comes to cleaning and organizing. The whole house can be a complete disaster and yet I'll clean a closet or something totally unnoticeable to anyone but myself (LOL) Debbie,

I’ve gotten into a few bad habits myself this summer… letting things (the kids, the house, etc.) get a bit out of hand, etc.

Kathy,
I’m quite OCD when it comes to cleaning and organizing. The whole house can be a complete disaster and yet I’ll clean a closet or something totally unnoticeable to anyone but myself (LOL)

]]> By: Debbie http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2627 Debbie Sun, 12 Aug 2007 17:13:34 +0000 http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2627 What a wonderful entry, Kathy. Thanks so much for sharing your heart. I know I am in a cycle of less than great behavior (okay sinful) toward the Littles. I'm really struggling right now. Your post has given me a lot to think and pray about. What a wonderful entry, Kathy. Thanks so much for sharing your heart. I know I am in a cycle of less than great behavior (okay sinful) toward the Littles. I’m really struggling right now.

Your post has given me a lot to think and pray about.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2625 Jennifer Sun, 12 Aug 2007 16:16:13 +0000 http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2625 Wow, Kathy. That's a very powerful article...lots to think about. That's really what it's all about isn't it..keeping hearts tender. My good friend, who has almost all grown children now and all with soft hearts, told me that relationships require constant tending. The garden is such a great illustration for relationships. Thanks for being transparent and sharing your insights, it reminds me to keep focused. Wow, Kathy. That’s a very powerful article…lots to think about.
That’s really what it’s all about isn’t it..keeping hearts tender. My good friend, who has almost all grown children now and all with soft hearts, told me that relationships require constant tending.

The garden is such a great illustration for relationships. Thanks for being transparent and sharing your insights, it reminds me to keep focused.

]]> By: Liz http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2623 Liz Sun, 12 Aug 2007 11:46:44 +0000 http://www.edgren.com/wordpress/2007/08/11/a-fathers-rebuke/#comment-2623 It is hard to know we've hurt or disappointed our own children, isn't it. And to wake them up to our own fallenness. Thanks for telling it all, Kathy. It is hard to know we’ve hurt or disappointed our own children, isn’t it. And to wake them up to our own fallenness. Thanks for telling it all, Kathy.

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